Monday, February 20, 2017
A Maturing Christian ... Can Handle Criticism
I mentioned and then quoted from a a booklet that Tim Keller wrote entitled, "The Freedom of Self-forgetfulness." Here is the LINK to Amazon for the booklet. A couple of people asked about it.
There was one area that I skimmed that I thought I might bring to your attention for your added investigation, meditation and prayerful consideration. It has to do with listening for the nugget of God's truth in every criticism level against you. I quoted a college mentor, Elizabeth Jackson as having told me that I should look at every criticism and see if there isn't some seed of truth that I need to consider as being valid and something that God would want to address in my life.
The Bible itself is full of admonitions and then examples that illustrate how important it is that we take advice and criticism to heart. Not to let it dictate our self-worth, but for criticism to help us in our journey to be all that God wants us to be. Proverbs is an incredible place to start for those pithy encouragements to adhere to advice and respond properly to criticism.
Come and listen to my counsel. I'll share my heart with you and make you wise. (1:23)
Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life, but he who rejects reproof leads others astray (10:17)
There is sever discipline for him who forsakes the way; whoever hates reproof will die. (15:10)
If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home with the wise (15:31)
People who wink at wrong cause trouble, but a bold reproof promotes peace (10:10)
If you ignore criticism, you will end in poverty and disgrace; if you accept correction, you will be honored. (13:18)
To one who listens, valid criticism is like a goal earring or other gold jewelry. (25:12)
In the end, people appreciate honest criticism fare more than flattery. (28:23)
Whoever stubbornly refuses to accept criticism will suddenly be destroyed beyond recovery. (29:1)
Just do a word search for criticism or reproof. You'll find plenty of material to build a strong case for taking the time to handle criticism God's way. The key, once again, is that we are so secure in our relationship with Christ that we are not destroyed by hostile criticism and can therefore use it for our growth and maturity in Christ-likeness.
A HUGE REMINDER: The vision of the church is not that you simply attend church. The vision is that you will become a mature, reproducing follower of Jesus Christ.
Sunday, August 5, 2012
Dealing with the Devil
Monday, July 30, 2012
Too much on "suffering?"
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Expanded Sermon Notes from 6/24/2011
Critical Perceptions for Effective Witness
Pastor Tim Feather Mark 5:1-13
#4 One Step Closer June 26, 2011
The Greatness of People’s Need “Without Christ people are …”
Spiritually Dead
John 3:6-7; 1 John 5:11-12
Under the Influence of Satan
Eph 2:2; Col 2:15
Without restraint
Ez 35:26-27
Prone to hurt themselves
Filled with many complex issues
Lonely
The Fullness of Christ’s Sufficiency
He is Son of the MOST high God
James 2:19
He has superior authority
Col 2:15; Eph 5-6
His righteousness calls for reverent fear and worship
Rom 12:1
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Expectant Churches Gather Together
In brief, the points I made on Sunday included:
· Every time we gather together it is to be a dress rehearsal for Heaven. It is supposed to be a “foretaste” of glory.
· Our culture of the individual makes this sort of perspective difficult to comprehend or assimilate. We make fun of “it takes a village” sort of talk, but when we give up that value to our cultural norms, we find ourselves separated from the whole and hopelessly drift according to the prevailing currents.
· We are way too casual about church attendance. If there is nothing else to do, we go to church.
But what I didn’t say on Sunday has to do more with our level of commitment and devotion to the local church. In the early church this aspect of gathering together dictated their lives. Their devotion to the other believers in their local church governed their schedules. In essence, in the waiting church – the expectant church – the church came first.
We see it in the book of Acts as they gathered together daily and broke bread together. The apostles seem to assume this priority as they write their letters. This passage from the book of Hebrews indicates that there must have been some believers even back then who were not as devoted to gathering together as they had been and the call was to not let that happen.
There are a couple of factors in our day and age that make it tough for us to even imagine this sort of lifestyle.
· There were no other churches down the street. We’ve become consumer oriented in our church shopping and this leads to superficial commitment. “As long as my needs are being met by this fellowship … I’m committed.”
· Our lives are so full and there are so many competing priorities that to say that my life is centered in the gathered church is nuts! But keep in mind that while life was simple in Bible times, it was hard. The most mundane and simple tasks took so much longer than they do today.
· We live in a world that says, “You’re too heavenly minded to be earthly good.” The whole notion of living in expectation of the second coming says that “You no earthly good unless you are heavenly minded!”
I just finished a conversation with someone who told me of another pastor who, after a similar study on the Second Coming, would wake up every morning look over at his wife and say “This may be the day!” O that I would live that way! O that my family of faith would live in that context. O that He might come TODAY!!!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
I Dare You to Pray This
In a post on the web site on which I found this video (churchleaders.com) there was one comment that I in one way agree with and in another way disagree with. The comment was a disagreement with Chan's desire to pray for only what he needed. The reality is that God's desire is to give in abundance - to give us much more than we need. Our issue is that when we receive that abundance, we all too often receive it as meeting our "need" and we end up consuming it as belonging to us.
What I did agree with was the commentator's alternative prayer: "Lord, all I have belongs to you, for you are my source. And I give back to you what I don't need to live daily, with the remainder applied to fulfill your assignment in my life. Show me who to share with, who to bless and who could use more for your purpose in their lives. All of my needs are supplied according to Your riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Amen"
I just see it as a further development of Chan's prayer. Unless we pray (and meant it) Chan's prayer of simplicity and austerity, we all too often don't see the abundance that God pours into our lives with the expectation that it will overflow into Kingdom advancement and blessing for many others.
Monday, September 27, 2010
The Poison of Bitterness
Sin always separates us from God AND the sin of bitterness separates us from others which is a violation of the love of Christ.
I’ve mentioned on a couple of occasions a book that I’ve been reading called, “Why Churches Die.” It dissects the various “diseases” that kill a church. A whole chapter is dedicated to “The Toxin of Bitterness.”
Here is a quote:
“Bitterness is a bile so toxic that it can consume anyone who becomes afflicted by it. It obsesses your thoughts and devours your energy until you are emptied of any other motivation. It comes in two forms: bitterness from jealousy and bitterness from vengeance; both of which come from a deep place of hardened heart.” (pg 99)
I’ve watched as people spiral down into a bit of bitterness. Rational thinking is gone; let alone any sort of spiritual sensitivity. There is an insanity about the power of these toxic emotions that controls every aspect of that person’s perception of reality. Quite frankly, I’ve never seen someone work themselves out of bitterness. I’ve never been able to convince a person that they are bitter. That has only caused them to go deeper into their bitterness … now directed at me too. Simon didn’t respond to Peter’s charge with repentance, but rather hoping that he could get away with it without the consequences. (“Pray that none of the things you said will happen.”)
The revelation of bitterness is a deep convicting work of the Holy Spirit. The longer we harbor and cultivate that bitterness, the more difficult it is for the Holy Spirit to do something to get our soul's attention.
But what is of great concern to me … and the point of this series on the church, is how bitterness is so extremely contagious. When we let out a little bit of that bile, it looks for a fertile place in another’s heart and mind where it can find an environment to grow and infect. In our rush to “help” and “come along side” people steeped in bitterness, we can find ourselves embracing their feelings of anger, revenge, jealousy, and plain ol’ selfishness.
At its core bitterness is about unforgiveness. Again from “Why Churches Die” … “When you do not learn to forgive people for the wrongs they have done to you, you become a victim a second time. You become ensnarled in a cycle of hatred, poison and bitterness that has no end and no solution.” Consider Paul’s challenge to the Galatians:
16 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. 18 But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses. 19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, 21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. 22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. 25 Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. 26 Let us not become conceited, or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another. Galatians 5:16-26 (NLT)
O God, make us all acutely aware of the seeds of bitterness that are sown constantly into our hearts. Give us the quick response of humility and forgiveness as soon as they touch our hearts. And then reveal to us any and all bitterness that has taken root. Expose this deadly toxin in us and grant us hearts full of forgiveness and joy. May the Blood of Christ continually wash over our souls exposing and removing this dangerous sinful emotion.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Short Weeks!

Now, thousands of years after the coming of this Arbitrator, people still have the same need. And they need someone to lead them to the Arbitrator! That's where THE CHURCH comes it! We who have been recipients of the Arbitrator's grace and peacemaking work through His own blood now have the incredible privilege of leading others to know the divine and eternal Arbitrator.
That is in large measure what Back to Church Sunday is all about - An opportunity for one beggar to tell another where they can find bread for their soul and peace before an Almighty God.
When I talked about the characteristics of a good leader of people's souls on Sunday I wonder if I did an adequate job of applying it to leading people to Christ. Think about the qualities of leadership that are essential for leading people to know and experience the fullness of Christ in their lives:
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Sunday Night Reflections
The Church on Purpose
Out of all the messages in this series (“We Are Church” based on the book of Acts) this one seems to have fallen the flattest. I know that not every message can be a “hole-in-one.” But I don’t think that the message was a triple bogie either. I always have to be careful about analyzing a message too closely on Sunday afternoon. But I do have some reoccurring thoughts about the focus of today's message!
There were two statistics that really stood out to me in today's message. One was the one from Lifeway that indicated that only 2% of churched people every invite someone to attend church with them. And the second was one from Rick Warren’s research that found that 89% of the church believes that the primary purpose of the church is to “meet my and my families’ needs.”
Now I always assume that CrossPoint is above average in any statistic. But these numbers are so extreme that you’ve really got a stretch to believe that CrossPoint folks have it all together in these two areas.
I sort of wish I would have taken a survey at the beginning of the message on those two questions to see where we really do stand in relationship to those averages. ("sort of" because I'm not sure that I really waht to know the results.) How would you have answered the question, “What do you believe the main purpose of the church to be?” And how would you have responded to: “Have you invited anyone to attend church with you in the past year?”
I’m wondering if I “misread my putt” on this message. Is this more of an issue than I’d like to believe it to be at CrossPoint? Warren’s data also indicated that the clergy of those same churches had exactly opposite results to the same question. For them the main reason is to reach the world for Christ.
As long as I am preaching on subjects related to the closeness and unity of the fellowship people are tracking with me. They like hearing about how to be more effective in becoming more connected to one another even if it is challenging. But when it comes to taking Christ into the world and “speaking to the people all the words of this Life,” there are some huge barriers that we as a church have to break down.
I’ve been doing more thinking about the “prisons” that we are in that hold us back. There was a lot more there than I developed in the message. (To remind you … (1) Reserved and introverted (2) fear and anxiety – “What will people think?” (3) Selfishness – Being more concerned about my friendship than I am concerned about where my friend will spend eternity and (4) spiritual and relational conflicts ) I really think that as a congregation we need to ask the Holy Spirit to help us realize our prisons and experience his deliverance from them.